If it weren't for adoption this little man wouldn't be ours. I am very grateful for adoption and the blessing it has been in our lives up to this point. More on our story later....
My cousin also has been blessed by adoption. She posted this on her blog and I really liked it so I thought I'd share. You can see her blog here.
Open Adoption is a scary term to many people. I must admit the first
time I went to and orientation at LDS Services to learn more about it I
was NOT SOLD on the idea! Over time I learned a lot more about it and
met many wonderful people with open adoptions. It sounds impossible for
birth families to place their children with families they hardly know
and everybody ends up happy. I am here to tell you that it DOES WORK! I
have two daughters that my husband I parent and my girls are blessed to
have more relatives to love them than the average kid. They have birth
families that consist of Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, and even
half-siblings! You can never have too many people to love your child.
Both of my daughters are 4th children. They know their siblings and have
a great time playing with them. At their young age they don't totally
understand how they are related, but that will be come in time.We are
blessed to be able to visit with their birth families multiple times
throughout the year and communicate with them via the phone and internet
often. I am obviously passionate about adoption. I am happy to talk
about our adoption experience, there is nothing I like to talk about
more!
Myth #1
Adoption must be spoken about in hushed tones
My
children hear the word ADOPTION every single day. Adoption is a
celebrated word in our home. My 3 year-old knows she was not in my
belly, and she can tell you who her "birthday mom" is. It is not a
secret that they are adopted.
Myth #2
I am not their "real mom"
My
children are blessed to have a birth mom and an adoptive mom. I take
care of them on a daily basis. I do council with their birth moms about
various things and get advice from them.
Myth #3
Their birth moms are going to try and take them back
The
girls are legally adopted, everything is finalized. I have people ask
if I worry that their birth moms are going to try and "steal" them back
like a thief in the night. I do not worry about this whatsoever! I trust
both of our birth moms. They made very conscious choices to place their
child for adoption.
Myth #4
Birth moms are scary, bad people
Are you
kidding me! Just because they had a baby in a tough situation does not
mean that they are bad people. Most people could not handle making the
difficult choice that they made. Birth mothers come from all different
backgrounds, there is no stereotype. Most people picture a young
teenager, but the average birth mom is over 25.
Myth #5
Adoptive parents must keep in constant contact with birth families
No one MAKES us keep in contact with our birth families, we choose to
stay in touch with them. It is not an obligation, it is a privilege to
be part of their lives and is in the best interest of the children to
know where they came from. Like I have said before, no child can have
too many people to love them. Their birth mothers are part of our
family.
Myth #6
Adoptive Couples compete against one another for children
There are so many amazing families waiting to be chosen to adopt children. Looking at www.itsaboutlove.org
has got to be overwhelming for birth parents looking for the right
family for their precious child. I honestly feel that birth parents are
guided by the spirit to the right family for that particular child. I am
not sad when a child goes to another great family rather than mine,
they end up where they are supposed to be. I love seeing adoption bless
homes like it has blessed mine.
Myth #7
Adopted kids are cuter than other kids
This is not a myth, there is something about adopted kids that makes them EXTRA CUTE! Their cuteness is unsurpassed!
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